It’s often the little things that move the big ones such as the simple quotes that carry immense wisdom and learning for us.
You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.Jon Kabat-Zin
Learning: We can’t stop life giving us lemons — challenges, various sad or painful experiences as we don’t have control over most of the external circumstances, other than ourselves.
We can choose to either get sunk by the circumstances (painful experiences, difficulties) we face or learn to stay on top of them — take responsibility for our reactions, gain new perspectives, learn how to manage them rather than them managing us and accept them for what they are.
Accept them as teachings, as a natural part of life in the dual universe, as a part of our personal (soul) lesson to learn in life and for our personal growth. As opportunities and look for a higher purpose in each of them.
Every experience, no matter how bad it seems, holds within it a blessing of some kind. The goal is to find it.Gautama Buddha
Learning: A brilliant quote to explain that difficult experiences are a part of our journey of evolution. I trust that we experience certain things — circumstances and situations because they’re important for our personal growth and evolution.
There’s a lesson — something essential for us to learn in everything that we encounter. Even the difficulties have something crucial to teach us.
The problem is that we judge situations and circumstances before we get to understand the learning they hold for us. It’s because we don’t like challenges and painful occurrences and look for seamlessness instead.
Most of us prefer immediate pleasure, joy, satisfaction, gratification, appreciation, love, and when it’s not given as we expected, we become apathetic, frustrated, upset, disappointed.
The fact is if we don’t judge our experience in the first place and stay open-minded towards it, our whole experience including our thoughts and emotions changes. It changes based on our attitude and when we incorporate our open mind rather than the judgmental mind.
Or, how famous Jack Sparrow from Pirates of the Caribbean used to say: ‘’The problem is not the problem but your attitude to the problem.’’
If we approach any situation from this perspective, it won’t be negative, terrible, and unbearable, but neutral. It’d open our minds to developing gratitude for everything that we get to experience in life.
We’d learn to see even in the worst and most difficult circumstances that what can enrich us. I am not saying that it’s easy to do, but it’s very much doable.
Nothing ever goes away until it teaches us what we need to know.Pema Chodron
Learning: Another saying that explains why we go through (the experiences) that we do. Especially, if what we’re facing is what we don’t like.
If there’s something in our life — even if we don’t like it, there’s a good reason for it. We just need to unlock the wisdom hidden in the difficulty — a situation, a circumstance, a person.
It’s also good to keep asking ourselves questions like:
Why am I experiencing this? Has it ever happened to me before? Does it feel somehow familiar to any previous experience from the past? Is this situation/ circumstance/ person a pattern of repeating experiences? Which one?
What this could have in it to teach me about myself? What feeling, belief, or behaviour of mine is this experience challenging? How is it making me feel?
A great example of this rule is relationships. For instance, we can have a terrible experience with love first to learn what love is and should be like. We could end up with a partner who mistreats us only to realize how we deserve to be treated.
We can only let go of what doesn’t serve us once we realized that it doesn’t serve us. Once we learned the lesson — the experience, the person, challenge taught us what we needed to know.
We accept the love we think we deserve.The Perks of Being a Wallflower
Learning: We often end up in unhappy, unhealthy, unsustainable, difficult, and painful relationships wondering how could it have happened to us? How could we get to choose a partner who’s causing us so many challenges, pain, and despair?
I trust the answer is simple, based on the principle that we accept the love we know and think we deserve.
We often go for what feels familiar, as it’s difficult to expect and even understand the emotion we’ve ourselves not been exposed to yet. Only once we learn and heighten our standards, then our partners, the overall experience with love, romance, and relationship changes.
We’d have understood what kind of love we are looking to receive and what we’re capable of giving. We clarify what we desire and need deeply, appreciate who we are, what we want, and what kind of love we deserve to experience.
Worry is worshipping the problem.Unknown
Learning: Most of our fears are unsubstantiated, they only exist in our minds and if we stop paying attention to them, don’t feed them with our energy (that means building up and contemplating them, expanding them further), they’ll eventually disappear.
Our minds would eventually have to give up on suggesting to us the thoughts we’re not willing to entertain. It’d release it from our consciousness.
Einstein said that worry is a misuse of our imagination. And I agree with him. We have a choice of what we want to think. And whether we:
a) Worship the problem by thinking worries
b) Worship the solution by looking at the challenge faced from a different perspective and thinking of how it could be understood and resolved.
That way, our worries would become irrelevant. And our mind would open to creative ways of acknowledging opportunities, even in what first seems to be a limitation.
If you correct your mind, the rest of your life will fall into place.Lao Tzu
Leaning: Psychology says that what we think impacts what we feel and how we act. The fact is scientifically proven and in practice within a few psychological approaches such as cognitive-behavioural therapy for decades.
The quote makes this complexity simple. It’s fixing our mind — our thought patterns, beliefs, especially the limiting ones, our self-talk and mindset shift from thinking limitations to thinking opportunities.
Without the mind in the right place, consciously choosing what and how to think, nothing that we do for ourselves and our progress will be everlasting.
If you accept your limitations, you go beyond them.Albert Einstein
Learning: It’s only by fully accepting who we are that enables us to self-improve. Avoidance doesn’t. Denial doesn’t. Fighting ourselves doesn’t.
Embracing does. Accepting does. By accepting our shortcomings, we are moving towards becoming our better selves. We know what’s the problem, and we’re taking a step (even unconsciously) to correct it.
It’s the awareness that fuels action. And an action that gives knowing a real substance.
You’re not a drop in the ocean. You’re the entire ocean in a drop.Rumi
Learning: We’re not small and insignificant as humans. As individuals. We’re significant enough for who we are. We’re whole as we are. We’ve got an imprint of God within us.
Our souls are a part of God — the creator of the universes, the particles of God himself/ herself/ itself. God manifests himself/ herself/ itself through us, and we mirror to him/her/it the parts of himself/ herself/ itself on Earth.
I gained this knowledge while reading Conversations with God, studying the philosophy of ancient Greeks and some teachings coming from Hinduism, Buddhism, Judaism, and Kabbalah and the excerpts from the original teachings of Jesus Christ.
Even the ancient shamanic and tribal wisdom from all around the world is saying the same thing, only in different words.
The bottom line is that we’re whole beings and we’ve got an incredible power within ourselves, such as the creator himself/ herself/ itself and it’s our greatest responsibility towards ourselves, our soul, the creator, and the universe to honour that what we’ve got within us.
What we’ve been given and to serve the world mindfully with consciousness and awareness of this wisdom.
A boat is safe in the harbour, but this is not the purpose of a boat.Paulo Coelho
Learning: Just like the boat from the example, we — humans feel safe in the comfort of the known, in what we’re used to, and what feels familiar and safe.
However, staying in the comfort of our nests can never allow us to explore and express our full potential — our strengths, abilities, talents, and passions.
We can never grow, expand, recognize our authentic selves, and what we’re capable of doing and live fully without leaving the nest.
Yet, we keep avoiding that what requires stepping out of the safe harbor, that what challenges us, that feels new, unknown, unexplored, and unsafe. Even if it’s precisely what we need, what can expand us naturally and make us grow.
We fear changing the course and expansion by nature as our minds fear the unknown, the change.
Still, if we don’t leave that nest, we’ll only stay the same, we won’t grow, won’t expand, and our purpose would be lost. So would the ship if it didn’t move from the harbour.
We can only find out who we’re and who we’re meant to be by moving from the harbour, taking fresh wind in our sails, by exploring, experimenting, expanding, doing, growing — by living.
Not within the walls of our comfort, but beyond them.
I also believe that what we seek is seeking us and so when we embark on a journey to meet and get to know ourselves, our potential, and purpose, we’ll meet half-way. I met my potential, my essence, and life purpose the same way.
The quieter you become, the more you can hear.Ram Dass
Learning: When we silence our minds, our disturbing thoughts, our critical self-talk, our reactive and demanding egos, we would find peace in connection with our souls, with ourselves, with God.
We would connect with our essence and the intuition within us. And we’d hear our honest inner voice speak clearly. We’d recognize that we’d not heard before and find eternal bliss in connecting with ourselves.
It leads us to light, to consciousness, to our purpose and true desires.
It’s the silence within us that speaks the most.
One Extra Quote:
Understand that nobody can take away from you that what truly belongs to you. And it’s also not possible to gain what life has not determined for you. It would not even give you happiness as it’s not in harmony with you.
You find happiness in loving yourself. Everything else is just a reflection of that. Keep developing your self-love, the world around you will adapt based on it. True liberation means to trust your life plan and know that you cannot miss anything.Martin Vlach
This one needs no further explanation. I hope you enjoyed reading them.
Blessings and Light,